Freed Yourself From Being "The Topic" In The New Place

Nobody wants to be talked behind their back. It hurts to know that everything you did seems wrong and they didn't tell you forthright just in front of you. They keep using you as "The Topic" and making you more famous than the tabloid's cover celebrities. Well, it looks familiar for female. We know that girls are mostly like to talk to their friends endlessly. Let's say to kill the awkwardness, by uncovering other people's business. But that doesn't mean boys are clear from gossip.

But as far as my experience and observation, we can avoid this inconvenience for being "The Topic". Society already set up some expectation about others although couldn't be estimated perfectly. If we are considered as a new guy in a circumstance, we should bring ourselves into what it expected. Don't play with some kind of cliche audacity to BE YOURSELF if it means you ignore the prior norm in your new circumstance. Moreover, the reluctant way you are will be a weapon to bring you down. You have to give in your ego and adapt to your surrounding, as animals do to survive.

Since the first meeting, set your smile as wide as it can. You will feel uncomfortable for being someone you're not. But you will thank me later for doing it. Smile to everyone you met and try your best not to make a bad impression. People will judge you since the first sight, and will continue do it even after you become their friends. But it will stop until they feel comfortable to interact with you. So, if you are asking until when you set your smile widely and become "someone else" as an alter, the answer is unsettled. You have to be sensitive enough to understand people feel comfortable by your existence. You need time, let's say one or two months.

Why people judge harder in the first time? It is because people are prefer to the status quo and feel uncomfortable for any changes, even slightly. A new guy is something they should adapt and it is psychologically burdening. That's why, we are the one who supposed to comfort them with a good impression. Don't show your pride or act arrogantly by defending your ego if you hate being "The Topic" in the new place.